In the Lonely Hour…

Sixty minutes, three thousand  six hundred seconds and three million six hundred thousand milliseconds equal one hour.They say when having fun time flies by , things take a drastic turn when you aren’t huh?That one hour can seem like days.We may find this hard to admit but for many of us whenever we are lonely we tend to go back to things that mean us no good .Stuff that we left behind for a reason , suddenly become desirable.So for those few hours or days ,however long your lonely streak lasts for we find ourselves being comforted by people or things that were meant to be dished out a long time ago .Then when your life regains that flame you do either one of two things , you either forget about what you had been doing to consume your time or that old habit becomes an active part in your life again.Well whichever option you choose , your wrong.

Never go back to something you left for a reason , I know it may be hard at times but the mere fact that you let go of it meant that it wasn’t as valuable as you thought it was  .Hold up! many of us may argue and say If you love something let it go and if it comes back its yours forever yea I agree with that but the saying says you should let whatever it is come back to YOU you shouldn’t be the one seeking what you already left.Change is born from dissatisfaction.Growth is limitless , being alone and actually sitting with our thoughts can lead to realizations that are very rare in our everyday busy lives.

Embrace your lonely hour .Stop letting just anyone in for comfort ,allowing people  to be in our lives once more with hope that their intentions are pure .Don’t worry about why your not Facebook or Instagram famous , or why no one is reaching out to you.Just be you. DO NOT SETTLE.

Behind the mask..

                                                                     Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

 9 Two are  better than one : because they have a good reward for their labour . 10 For if they fall , then one will lift up his fellow :but woe to him that is alone when he falleth : for he hath not another to help him up .11 Again ,if two lie together then they have beat :but how can one be warm alone? 12 and if one prevail against him,two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

“How are you today?” “fine,thanks”.How many times have you given that reply knowing on the inside its a whole different story ?Putting on a brave face and refusing to off-load problems on to family and friends seem like the right thing to do.I recently started this study at school and asked approximately 50 students  why they felt the need to hide their emotions.The results show that many of them lie about how they feel because of fear of being labelled as weak or they are embarrassed.

 When did being not fine become a bad thing ? I am also guilty of this ,I often keep my problems to myself because I didn’t want to add burden on anyone or simply because saying that I was ok was so much easier than explaining my troubles .The truth is 80% of the time we aren’t fine and no I am not saying that we should speak our troubles to everyone who asks how we are doing,but it is important that we have people in our lives with whom we can feel comfortable to share our feelings with  without being worried that we are going to be judged or looked down  upon.

The  smile that you wear means nothing if your crying on the inside .Many people think that they can make it on their own and do everything by them self,.Do not retreat and close ranks ,to find security in a kind of fortress .Fight the desire to turn inward .It is OK to lean on someone for comfort  ,one that can help you through whatever it is that is bothering you . Isolation is a very dangerous thing  ,do not be its victim .“People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges.”— Joseph F. Newton Men. Break down your walls and start building bridges with people who mean you good in life !